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[Contest]~Marriage: Who Convinced Whom? :)

“As she crossed the road that noon, it was like she had walked right into my life.”

Arranged marriage or Love marriage? Only a few get to experience both, so that they can compare which one turned out to be better for them. In case of the majority, the grass seems to be greener on the other side.
In either of the cases, the condition or situation is the same….only the dialogues differ.
This is how the spouses would go against each other:
Love marriage: ‘Having known you for like 3 years before marriage, I don’t know how I succumbed into getting married to you?’
Arranged marriage: ‘This is why I always felt that it was dangerous to agree for an arranged marriage.’
The only difference I can feel is that in love marriage, you re-experience something which you wouldn’t have liked earlier but had overlooked…while in arrange marriage, the same thing you’d have assumed to happen (and universe brings together its sources, and makes sure it does happen) happens.
With respect to the pain, I believe it is of the same level, though it’d be of different nature.

And then there can be difference in thoughts:
One who had a Love marriage: “Why didn’t I listen to my parents and settle for a gal/guy of their choice? Why was I stubborn to marry this one?”
One who had an Arranged marriage: “I should have proposed to her/him. What if she/he was someone else’s girlfriend/boyfriend? Why did I agree to marry someone my mother chose?”

The Complication lies in the Art of Convincing!
In case of Love marriage: You got to convince your parents, her/his parents, first circle of relatives (believe me!) on both sides, grandparents (if they are still authoritative), in some cases the long term neighbors (who’d have dreamed of getting their kid – if of the suitable gender – married to you) and even their dog!
In case of Arranged marriage: The whole universe around you tries to unite – come together in a miraculous manner – in order to persuade/convince you to agree to their choice! Even the dog, wags its tail.

If you are thinking about what happened in my particular case:
I was brought up in a jovial environment where arranged marriages were considered to be successful and hence, forever trending! And the love marriages that did happen in the family were between two individuals who belonged to the same caste/sub-caste and speaking the same mother tongue. So it was put down (in no writing) that if I was to have a love marriage, I’d have to find a gal who spoke my mother tongue. It made no sense to me and I played the ball into my mom’s court:
Horoscopes were matched, elders gave in their blessings. Only then was I given her email ID and asked to go figure. Though talking to girls was a casual affair, this was new to me and so I struggled. On getting her phone number we spoke for over 3 weeks at an average of 2 calls of 45 mins each per week. And when I went to meet her for the very first time, she crossed the road from the other side as if she walked right into my life.
It was first time for me in terms of arranged marriage 😉 so I wasnt’t aware of the procedure and hence I told her on the spot that I loved (meeting) her and it was a yes from my end. I consider it to be a Arranged-Love marriage from my end, for I had no clue that as per the protocol, I was supposed to convey my yes/no through my parents to her parents/relatives. She took her own sweet time (which was painful for me, in terms of the waiting period and uncertainty) to agree to my proposal and the rest as they say, is history. 😀

This is my entry to the Indiblogger’s contest – Love Marriage ya Arranged Marriage!

Also on Facebook – HERE.

 
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Posted by on August 30, 2012 in Candid, Happens~2~me, Humor, I~do~such~things

 

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[Humor]~10 reasons why I love to hate my In-laws! ;)

I’m a newly married bride. I had a love marriage, so no matter what, I’ve to say that I love my husband. My MIL is very sweet, so says my husband. When in front of MIL, my FIL demonstrates the world famous characteristic of our Prime Minister – Muteness.
Now coming to the point, 10 reasons why I love to hate my in-laws:
1. They love my husband more than me.
2. They expect me and not my husband to bear them a grandchild.
3. Though I hate to sleep within closed enclosures, they expect me to get beyond my bedroom door and lock it past twilight (you know, to achieve #2). Yes, I need to take my husband with me too.
4. My husband and his parents love to drink innumerable cups of filter coffee, but hate to prepare those themselves. Though I hate to drink that brown liquid, I happen to take (read: get) orders.
5. They consider me just like their own daughter, the one they never had.
6. They see to it that I wear every available accessory to showcase that I’m married to their son, all the time. Also, I got to tag his name behind mine, officially. However, all this isn’t applicable to him.
7. I hate the daily soaps on Television. My MIL loves to watch those and if I don’t sit with her, she makes it a point to update me. Even FIL isn’t spared, for my humor.
8. They give me every opportunity to bit*h about them.
9. I’m an atheist. However, my MIL takes me to every damn temple on every damn street of this city to pray for that one and only one thing (#2).
10. I can’t be open about how I feel about them even on Facebook, for my in-laws are active (more than me) on that freaking social site! 

 
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Posted by on August 27, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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[I Say]~Of North-East & other less important Breaking News!

As if inflation, recession, corruption and population were not enough of a crisis already, now the latest sport in India is screwing up the constitution. If you are currently in India or following it up in the media, you would be aware of the many things happening out here.

Someone rightly said “I was intelligent till Education spoilt me”! Till recently, we were oblivious of the North Eastern states and then Mary Kom happened. Not only did she go on to win an Olympic medal, but also brought Manipur (and other North Eastern states of India) into the picture. Just like how we had mugged our Geography lessons and conveniently forgot them after puking those details inside the examination hall, we rejoiced her triumph momentarily only to forget that and get into the riots mode.
As if riots in Assam weren’t enough, Mumbai proved to be a disappointment. They seemed to convey something like We don’t need the terrorists to cause harm, we ourselves are enough through their actions. The police were caught busy shooing away the journalists & cameramen instead of controlling the mob.
Currently we are seeing the effects of Rumors, spread via SMSes and Social Networks, at Bangalore-Mysore-Hyderabad-Pune. Over 10K NE-Indians have left the city of Bangalore in last 3-4 days, forced to run away from their own people!

In other news:

Mr. Chetan Bhagat released his new book…a non-fiction this time…I’m yet to recover from what I got to read his last fiction of a book. I’m taking no risk this time.

Ms. Rakhi Sawant was last seen, on top of like 12-15 men, who stood in a pyramid pattern while she broke the Handi (Pot) on Krishna Janmashtami! 😛

Mr. Lal Krishna Advani lived up to his name and made almost everyone in BJP go Red, with his blog posts. Did he CCP (plagiarize) too? 😛

There is nothing left on Ms. Poonam Pandey to strip. She’s now out of fashion, especially after Ms. Sherlyn Chopra bared it all out on the cover page of the bunny magazine – PlayBoy! If you ask me, the only way for Ms. PP to make a comeback is to go all over India and pacify the frustrated junta, in the only way she knows!

Flipkart, the online retail store is getting greedy as much as it is getting popular. Shipping was free to start with, then was increased to a minimum bill amount of 200 and has now gone up to 300 bucks. So I can’t buy a single book of say 250 bucks without paying 30 bucks on shipping. It’s time to visit the Higginbotham store at my office campus where you get a corporate discount, if I need to purchase something that costs below 300 bucks.

At my desk:

Yesterday, a blogger pinged me saying …I read your blogs and you are rocking amidst other things.
I replied with a Thanks sir to which I got a quicker than Usain Bolt reply am a girl! Though unintentional, I profusely apologized to her for messing up with her gender.
Some names are just damn confusing!

Happy weekend! 🙂

 

 

 

 
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Posted by on August 18, 2012 in Thoughts

 

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