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The Last Bachelor Post! ;)

In less than a fortnight from now, it will all be over – the golden era of bachelorhood, that is. It just struck me that I will then be speaking about these days in the past tense. In the last two months or so, I’ve been getting a lot of material in the form of mail forwards and messages on topics like “How to, be a good husband!”, “How to, keep your wife happy!”, “How, saying YES is always advantageous!” 😛 , “Why, NOT arguing is safer than self defense!” and so on. Not that I’m miffed, but every read of such a material reminds me of an approaching end.

We become what we eventually turn out to be, and friends play a very important role in that. Though I’ve had my share of crushes all through school life, it was in the summer of ’96 that I was told by a friend – “Don’t let the gals make a bro out of you…you never know what all they will make u do! Instead, do what we guys do!” – and thus began my tryst with flirting…so much of it, that I had no other go but to resort to un-flirting in order to unwind myself! 😉

Gals who saw their bro in me, were avoided or asked to stay away…and those who showed an inclination to make something out of our ‘fraandships’ were advised and convinced into believing “Being just friends is so much fun!”…But then too much of anything sucks the life out of us. Same did happen with this un-flirting portfolio. There then began that urge to find that one perfect partner whom you could spend the rest of your life with. This ‘feeling of loneliness’ was self-confessed to mom in late ’08 which surprisingly was very well received, of course after a few exchanges of dialogues.
Mom: “You are still very young…why so early?”
Me: “Well I thought it takes time to search a gal, in an arranged marriage. So, I….well…how about love marriage, then?”
Mom: “No no…I’ll search a gal for you. If you find a gal who can speak Konkani, then introduce her to me!”
Me (didn’t say): **So that means I need to ask the gal – do you speak Konkani – before falling in love with her…?”
Me: “Oh! That is tough…it’s simpler for you to find me one…” (I get to see the “I WIN” grin on her face).

Well…the search that began early ’09 took well over a year…15 months to be exact…got my share of unmatched horoscopes all along…till this one with Su matched early July’10, the first one to do so. And
And oh! Arranged marriage is quite a procedure, and this is how I think it went in my case:
1) The gal’s side received my horoscope (horror-scope?) through someone who knew both the parties (Note: There’s always such someone!)
2) Horoscopes did match on the gal’s side…so they contacted my mom, who asked them to send across the gal’s horoscope.
3) Mom received the gal’s horoscope…asked me to confirm if I was indeed ready…a clear YES, she gets to hear…so it was posted to the astrologer.
4) A week later, astrologer called up to confirm that the horoscopes matched from our end too.
5) Gal’s parents were informed, requesting them to send the gal’s photo…and asking them to check the guy’s pic on his Facebook profile (“He’s everywhere there!” 🙄 )!
6) I was later given her email ID asking me to get in touch.
Then you know how it all would have gone! 😀

Marriage shopping…phew…its one hell of a fun ride…never seems to get over, but eventually has to stop when the bank balance drains out! 😉

I came home with a tie in hand, showed it to granny…she asked me “how much did you pay for that?”
I replied “It cost me 1399 bucks, too much I now feel…” and she got all nostalgic…
“You know, my entire marriage shopping was done with 500 rupees…including the jewelery!”
“Wow…500…we don’t get 3 pairs of socks these days! Btw, what was the price of gold then?”
“32 per gram…very costly then!”
she said rolling her eyes.
“Sigh! Wish I had a time machine now…”

As I look forward to this new phase in life, there’s this feeling of separation from that phase of life where I’d embraced irresponsibility, insanity, carelessness, aloofness, solitude, late nights, late mornings and laziness. And even though I know that I can still hold on to a few of these traits, I’ll miss the ones which I’ll need to let go of.
And well, some things don’t change…like reporting to someone at home…only the boss changes, or if it goes worst – 2 bosses!! 😉

Spidey’s uncle had once said “With great power, comes great responsibility” …and I add, “…and so it does with marriage!” 😉

This is my last post…as a bachelor! 😛 Co-incidentally, this happens to be post #420 @ ~Mind^Blogging~…so no more being a 420! 😉

Bachelor’s last words: If you are an electronics freak, buy all that you want to – before marriage – cos once you are hitched, you are done in. (unless she too happens to be one!) 🙂

Note: Thanks Shanthi, for suggesting to write on this front! 🙂

 
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Posted by on November 3, 2010 in About me, I~do~such~things, Thoughts

 

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Rants of an Eligible Bachelor! :)

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Well…I was back on wednesday morning…but then tiredness, body-ache and work too priority before getting back to this online den of mine!! 🙂

It had been a good long weekend…I set out on friday night in a train to Mangalore and as expected found myself amidst a gang of 65+ yr old men and women…I suddenly had this feeling of being on my way to Amarnath, Vaishnodevi, Kashi, Haridwar or some other pilgrimage place…it was just an instant feeling!! 😉
The worst thing about being in the company of the senior citizens in a train is that they switch off the lights when its 10pm and in most cases also switch off the godforsaken fans citing cold as the reason…since they get air from the window peeps, the ones (like me) on the upper berth are gone for a toss. The best thing about being in their company is that I get to eat whatever they offer as well as I get some time for myself (else I would spend that time checking out the PYTs)!! 😀

I checked the chart before boarding the train…there was a 24 F who was supposed to board the train from Palghat in the morning and get down at Cannanore…a 2 hour 30 mins ride for the chick…but sadly when I opened my eyes, it was 11am…all I did was sleep more! Sigh!

As I approached closer to Mangalore, I got down from my berth and looked outside the window and at the Payanur station found a yellow banner reading “Self volunteering for Vasectomy is good for your own Health, your state Kerala and our country India” in white paint…What the…I mean, of all things…I guess since mostly older men travel (they do whenever I do, at least) on this route, this banner was at the right place!! 😉

The wedding and all the rituals went by peacefully…and my dear friends, your friend (ya me…aur kaun) has now become the most eligible one from both his maternal and paternal side.!!! :mrgreen: Being the first grandchild on my mom’s side, I was born eligible…lol…and it took me 25 yrs and almost 7 months to become eligible from my dad’s side (blame my late grand-dad for all that targets he achieved with my grandma…may god bless his soul)!! Phew…

The return journey back to Chennai was no sweeter…though I came via Bangalore and hence boarded 2 trains on 2 consecutive nights, my luck remained the same…just plain, simple and hard!! 😦

Wednesday was busy….I didnt even realise as to how it went by…The only time I took to relax was to get done with the dreaded photo shoot for my office ID card!! It took him 3 shots to kill…err…get my pic right! First click, he said “Sir, is it ok if i click you without your spectacles? They reflect…blah blah”….Second Click, “Sir you have tilted your head to the right…one more pls”…and he adjusted my head by tilting it to my left…and clicked the third successful one…
If you ask me, the problem was with him cos when he clicked he tilted to his right side and always set his object tilted to their left!! Classic case of “Finding faults in others is easy”!! 😀

Today it was terrible…I goofed up at work…Did some financial postings which I wasn’t supposed to do…But I did!! :mrgreen: Sat the whole noon reversing all the mess I had done…and in the evening client call, I explained the mishap and got off the hook! Phew…

At home here, I had planted the rat kill bait for Jerry…seems like he was happy to eat it and go…only to return after 5 days…May be he got admitted to a hospital with tummy ache after eating that!! Damn that product from Mortein…Jerry might now be immune to such baits!! Sheesh!!

Well so far, its all gone good…
Had round dosas now as food…
I simply love my bachelorhood…
Eligibilty now adds a little bit of attitude!! 😉

 
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Posted by on November 21, 2008 in I~do~such~things

 

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